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"A New Concept In Marriage
Counseling:
For The First Time... It's Nobody's Fault... Not
Even The Husband's!"
Dr. Max's Marriage
Blueprint™
Approach Makes YOU the Experts of Your Marriage and Frees You From the
Confusing, Confining Restraints of Traditional Marriage
Therapy…
Men
and Women Actually Start On
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Don't Fall For These Dangerous Marriage Myths!
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Myth #1: Great Marriages involve compromise. False! Great marriages
require you to be who you truly are, not to surrender yourself or
become someone else.
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Myth #2: There is a single, true pathway or model for creating a Great
Marriage. False! There are as many variations on Great Marriage as
there are people. Your job is to find your own best way, with Dr.
Max's guidance.
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Myth #3: There are experts who know more than you do about your
marriage. False! You are the expert at your marriage. You just need
to get better at the job in order to create better results!
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Myth #4: Creating a Great Marriage takes a lot of time and hard work.
False! You can potentially take a failing marriage and turn it into a
highly successful and joyous marriage in as little as a few days… and
the results can be permanent!
Bonus Myth: Women are naturally better at relationships than men
and really know best about marriage, parenting, relationships, and
intimacy. FALSE!
This is a lot of hooey which is left over from the 1950's and is
a kind of "hangover" still lingering among people in the helping
professions and our culture. Men are just as capable as women in
all these areas, and it's about time to level the playing field!
Dr.
Max Vogt's Marriage Blueprint Method™ is a revolutionary and
easy-to-understand approach that shows you how to cut through the noise
and nonsense of complicated theories…communicate… have intimacy… and a
have a better relationship than you ever have before – just by being
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Table of Contents of "You Don't Have to Change Who You Are to Have a Great Marriage"
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Table of Contents
PART I: The Intimacy Paradox
What Creates a Great Marriage?
Why So Many People Are Miserable in Theirs,
And How You Can Discover Untapped Resources
And Re-Ignite Passion and Intimacy in Yours
Chapter 1 How Neal and Rita Got Back Their Vital Marriage Hopes
Chapter 2 The Intimacy Paradox and How You Can Solve It
Chapter 3 You Are the World’s Top Expert—on Your Marriage
Chapter 4 Tom and Sandy—Why “Being Perfect” Won’t Bring You Marital Happiness
Chapter 5 Rick and Donna—Flawed but Happy: The Code for Your Great Marriage
Chapter 6 How to Be Bold In Marriage, Or Even In Divorce!
Chapter 7 How to Handle Your Differences Using the Power of The Intimacy Paradox
Chapter 8 Kill Defenses Before They Spread and Kill Your Marriage!
PART II: What Makes You Tick
Your Belief Systems—How You Got Them
How They Run Your Life, and How You Can
Create New “Belief Engines”
Chapter 9 What Really Makes You—And Your Spouse—Tick
Chapter 10 How James Got Deeply Depressed And Then Instantly “Un-depressed”
Chapter 11 How Your Belief System Got Inside Your Brain and Can Never Die
Chapter 12 Why I Claim Your Marriage is Already Perfect.
Chapter 13 “Honey, I Shrunk the Marriage!”
Chapter 14 How You Got A Bad Reputation With Your Spouse; What Can You Do?
Chapter 15 Construct Your Own Personal Marriage Blueprint
Chapter 16 Control Your Destiny Throwing a Simple Mental Switch
PART III: Your Marriage Blueprint™
Belief Systems in Action
The Models upon Which Your Marriage Is Built—
And How Choosing the One You Love
Can Radically and Positively Transform Your Marriage
Chapter 17 The Four Compass Points in Marriage: Uniqueness v. Tradition, North/South
Chapter 18 Fun Or Work First? Pleasure-Orientation v. Duty-Orientation, East/West
Chapter 19 Me or We? Two “Styles”—Independence v. Joining Preference
Chapter 20 The 8 Marriage Blueprints Solve Your Intimacy Paradox!
Chapter 21 How to Supercharge Your Marital Happiness and Re-Discover the Sizzle
Chapter 22 A Free Gift for You
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Foreword
by Michael and Dawn Angier
This may be the clearest, most useful book on relationships yet written. You Don’t Have to Change Who You Are to Have a Great Marriage is an incredible opportunity for anyone who wants to truly have a great marriage.
As Dr. Max says, “No one can tell you what a great marriage is!
You have to find out for yourself. I don’t care how great or
wonderful your therapist, guru, pastor, counselor or television
personality is. They don’t know the answer! I don’t know
the answer. All I can do is show you how to find the answer for
yourself!”
And that’s exactly what he does.
Dr. Max takes you step by step through a series of questions and
strategies to uncover and clarify your Marriage Blueprint. He describes
how your Marriage Blueprint “shows up” in the areas of sex,
parenting, money, personal development and religion/spirituality in
your marriage and family.
Michael and I experience the wonderful challenge of loving, living and
working together. After reading Dr. Max’s profile of our Marriage
Blueprint, we more fully understand how to use this information to
enhance our already powerful and satisfying marriage.
This book is for everyone who wants to be the best they can be for
themselves and for their loved ones because all relationships start
with YOU first!
We can all be grateful to Dr. Max for opening his office and sharing his 25 years of wisdom with us.
--Michael and Dawn Angier
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High Praise from Colleagues and Professionals....
“As a Rabbi who has spent years counseling
countless couples on what they thought were marriages on-the-brink, Max
Vogt's Marriage Blueprint Method was a breath of fresh air. As I
read through each page, I found myself making notes and nodding in
enthusiasm. Family therapists should beware because couples who discover Max's book may be able to resolve the most infuriating issues on their own — virtually overnight."
--Rabbi Harlan Kilstein, Boca Raton, Florida
"Dr. Max cracks the code
on what makes Great Marriages tick. With its surprising and
inventive new methods, this book could revolutionize your whole view of
marriage."
--Dr. Richard McCutchan, Author, "Awakening The Spirit of Osiris"
"Dr. Max's book is a real Eye-Opener and can help you transform your
relationship or marriage for the better. His unique and powerful
discussions about 'Family Belief Systems' and'Family Marriage
Blueprints' will help you understand why disconnection and challenges
happen in relationships and marriages, and what to do about it. Buy this book and read it NOW!"
--Susie and Otto Collins, authors, "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy"
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High Praise for Dr.
Max’s New Breakthrough
Marriage Blueprint™ Method!
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“Working with Dr. Max brought our marriage back from the brink of
disaster…”
“Working with
Dr. Max brought our marriage back from the brink of disaster. Believing our marriage was destined for
divorce court; we bickered loudly and publicly, and argued constantly. With his help, we discovered that what we
bring to the relationship defines it, and we got the tools to make the
relationship we truly wanted: a supportive, animated marriage where communication
and intimacy flourish, rather than the doomed relationship we had and were
continuing to create.
“With Dr.
Max's tools, we are now able to work on improving our marriage on a daily
basis. We enjoy one another's company,
we communicate openly, we see each other as dynamic changing beings, and we do
things together again (even dancing). By
learning how to accept each other as we are rather than attempting to change
one another as we used to, our marriage has dramatically and permanently
improved.”
Dan and Peggy T.
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“I have a new pride, a new respect
for and from my wife, a whole new attitude and approach to life.”
“Working with Dr. Max saved
my marriage. When things seemed irreparable and hopeless, at times when
many couples would have come apart permanently, my wife and I stayed to keep
working with Dr. Max together because the work was deeply relevant to each of
us as individuals. We trusted Dr. Max because he'd been right about us so
many times, and so we lowered our defenses and opened up. Once I finally
let it happen, examining my beliefs, and where they came from, and how they
served me rapidly transformed my thinking about marriage, career, money, kids—even
what I'm here for.
“I have a new pride, a new
respect for and from my wife, a whole new attitude and approach to life.
Our marriage is what we expect it to be, and I'm so happy when my wife shows me
in so many ways that she expects it to be a lasting source of joy, fun, love,
partnership and understanding. We appreciate each other now more than we
ever have. We know we have the skills and the tools to get through
anything together.”
Chuck S.
“Dr. Max
helped me understand that my low expectations were keeping me from the marriage
I deeply wanted … I had been afraid that the differences would pull us
apart. Through work with Dr. Max, I came to understood how this attitude
was actually blocking intimacy—and killing the passionate energy our relationship originally
had.”
“During the
process of saving my marriage and family, Dr. Max helped me fundamentally
change my thoughts and beliefs about intimate relationships and marriage.
“Before we
started seeing Dr. Max, I remember asking with regard to my marriage, ‘Is this
all there is?’ I thought that I would be happy if I could just work to
accept how it was. However, when our marriage entered into crisis, Dr.
Max helped me understand that my low expectations were keeping me from the
marriage I deeply wanted.
“I used to
think that I understood all there was to know about my husband, but his affair
blew up that faulty notion. Dr. Max challenged me to get to know my
husband as a new person each day. I worked to stop making
assumptions about him, and this allowed for his growth and change. To my
delight, I am finding that I actually like my husband more than I did when I
thought I knew all about him!
“Dr. Max
helped me to see how I was giving up my individuality and sense of self in my
efforts to "make the marriage work." I had been afraid
that the differences would pull us apart. Through work with Dr. Max, I
came to understood how this attitude was actually blocking intimacy—and killing
the passionate energy our relationship originally had.”
Melinda B.
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“… the
exercise about lowering our defenses has improved our marriage already.”
“This
Marriage book is a definitely must read for all married couples, or anyone thinking
about getting married. Dr. Max gets
right to the point in a no-nonsense, yet fun way! The strategies in the book are powerful,
while being amazingly simple and easy to apply.
In particular, the exercise about lowering our defenses has improved our
marriage already! Thanks, Dr. Max.”
Annie and
Roger K.
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“We feel
really relieved and happy that great marriages are doable, and not a fantasy,
and now we have such a great and understandable roadmap for getting there.”
“Dear Dr.
Max: I have finished the book twice and am just starting to write out my
beliefs. The reason I read it twice was because I just couldn't believe that
the methods for identifying your beliefs and changing them and having a great
marriage could be so easy. I thought I must be missing something. I've always
been told (especially in my college course on psychology) that marriage
counseling is the hardest thing to do because no one really knows what makes
marriages tick. This approach to
changing your marriage is easy and interesting.
My wife and I have been discussing the Marriage Blueprints with our
friends all this last week and we all feel we have a new and freeing way to
approach our marriages. We feel really
relieved and happy that great marriages are doable, and not a fantasy, and now
we have such a great and understandable roadmap for getting there. Thanks for your help, Dr. Max."
Michael P.
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“My husband
Jim is back! It’s like a miracle!”
"My
husband Jim is back! The great, wonderful man I once knew (who I thought had
turned into a zombie) came back into the marriage after reading your book. He
told me that he couldn't believe it was so simple to just do your methods. Jim
has always been leery of therapists because he feared getting “ganged up on” by
the counselor and me. He doesn’t feel
that way at all with your book and your approach. He feels like you really explained how we all
need to be understood and respected, and likes your view of marriage.
“I can’t
believe that he got into your book and that now we are really talking for the
first time since we married 31 years ago.
Jim seems like a new man after reading your book. You can see it in his face. He told me he’s feeling that we really can be
happily married and he wants to work on the marriage with me now. I am very appreciative of what he has done
for himself and for me! Thank you for helping me get my husband and marriage back. It’s like a miracle!"
Gina S.
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“I feel more
confident with Paula than I ever have, and happier being my own man in marriage
without having to act macho at all.”
"I used
to think I could never get it right with my wife and that women were impossible
to understand. I thought it was some huge mystery about what would make her
happy. Now I know that it's much simpler than I thought. Your book helped my
wife Paula and me know how to make our marriage a great one; and in no
uncertain terms that all we need to do is the straightforward methods you
showed us. I feel more confident with
Paula than I ever have, and much happier being my own man in marriage without
having to act macho at all.
“Thank you
for this wise and helpful book. My buddy
asked me about it and I said, ‘It’s OK.’
In my neighborhood, that’s code for ‘it’s great!’."
Jack L.
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More People Happy They Encountered Dr. Max's Work
“...When you first made the statement "You Don't Have to Change Who You Are to Have a Great Marriage..." my ears pricked up like
never before. What you were saying was so different from all the usual junk you
hear from everyone about how to get on after a loss or affair. Now I understand
what you mean and why your methods are
the only ones that work."
-Katrina from Denver,
Colorado
“I admit I was skeptical about
making huge changes in my thoughts, feelings and behavior in only 21
days...but I'm a skeptic no
more. All I did was follow the simple instructions and hardly ever even
thought about what I was doing. Suddenly I just felt better, stronger, more
confident and the incredible pain from having been betrayed by my friend
was...GONE. Best
of all I knew I would be able to handle any situation like this the rest of my
life!"
-James from Dallas,
TX
“I was just
wallowing in my pain. I was doing everything my therapist and pastor said to
do...but every single day I was sinking deeper and deeper into a daze and losing
my personality. I had been in therapy for FIVE YEARS and never even felt
better. Your course brought me back into life...now I feel lighter, happier and more hopeful
about the future than I ever did in my life!"
-Kale from Missoula,
MT
“...I
finished the course. Actually I finished it twice. I have to admit to you that
the first time through I was fighting with you on every single thing you had me
do. Then when I finished the first time, I realized I was really thinking and
feeling differently about myself and about the people around me. It was time to
get honest with myself...I really was changed. You might find it funny that the
second time I did the course, I was laughing and really just enjoyed it. And I
got even more out of the course the second time through! I want you to know
that you have really helped out a skeptic. Not just a skeptic about what you
said about people being able to change. I have been a skeptic all my life, and
this has kept me in a dark hole. I think it was out of terrible fear that people
would take advantage of me. Now I know that no one can really, truly do that to
me ever again. And even though I still think of myself as a realistic and
common sense person, I have a wonderful sense of lightness and happiness and
security I've never felt before. This course has really
opened my eyes to a new way of seeing people and myself. Thanks from the
bottom of my heart. I'm really looking forward to what life--and other
people--have to offer me in the years to come. I've never been able to say that
before, and it feels good to say it now!"
-Corey from Wichita, KS
“Dr. Max, I have to confess something terrible. After my
husband left me, I fell into such a dark depression that I honestly considered
ending it all. This is totally against everything I've ever been taught by my
religion, my parents or my family...but I felt so destroyed that I honestly felt
that death couldn't be any worse. Then as things happen..my friend gave me the
link to you website. I read what you wrote and thought "sure...no one can help
me or understand what I've been going through." That's the way it is when you
have been destroyed by betrayal. But then I thought, why not just get the
course and see, it's not expensive (certainly not compared to my therapist's
fees!!). The rest, as they say, is history. At first, I just slugged my way
through the first few days...but then about day 5 I really began to be able to
see life differently...by day 12, I was really starting to feel good, and by the
21st day, I felt not just "my old self" back again, but like I had exchanged my
old body and mind for a fresh one! I started feeling great! One kind of ironic
thing is that when my now ex-husband saw how well I was doing, he started trying
to get back together with me (I guess his fling was just a little disappointing
to him), but I told him that I didn't want to be around someone like he had
been, and felt very calm, powerful and not angry at all telling him that I just
felt like I was a new person who didn't need the kind of pain and suffering he
was capable of inflicting on me...I just wasn't available for it anymore! I'm
not exactly sure what I'll do with my life now, but it's only because I feel
that I have so many good and wonderful choices to pick from. I don't just feel
like I have "survived" an affair and betrayal, but have been truly "reborn"
after all of that misery. I couldn't
possibly tell you in this letter all about the gratitude I feel and all the
changes. I'll just sum it up by saying...."You really helped me." I
think you'll understand how much that means...
-Gina from Sarasota, FL
“Dr. Max, let me keep this short (otherwise I'd go on for
pages and pages)--Your course Never Forgive Anyone did more for my personal and
business life than anything I've ever encountered...bar none. It was, and is,
the thing I needed most to give me the stairway to personal and business
success. I now understand EXACTLY why my other businesses failed, why I allowed
them to fail, and why my other relationships failed and why I allowed them to
fail. Now I have to tools, the desire,
the ambition and the plan to have a totally different set of outcomes in
my life. Nice work, Doc...I appreciate it very very much."
-Dave D from Oklahoma
“...my so called
friend had made off with 350k of my money. He was supposedly going to invest it
in Germany...but I never heard from him again. For 5 years, I just burned and
burned about it. TIME DOES NOT HEAL WOUNDS, as you make very clear. It got in
the way of everything I did. I couldn't get it out of my mind. I make a good
living--very good--but it seemed like something had been stolen from me,not just
money, that could never be recovered. I felt I would never trust anyone again,
and didn't even want to. When I saw the title of your course, I knew instantly
I had to have it. I had no idea the impact it would have on me. All I can say
is that it is now 6 months after finishing the course, and even though I think
about my friend stealing from me, it doesn't have the devastating effect
anymore. As a matter of fact, I can now see that it was necessary for me in a
weird way. I now understand exactly how that could happen to me, how he could
have done that....I have truly relinquished control over this fact and no longer
does it eat at me at all. I am now in real control of my life for the first
time, and truly feeling happiness, security and strength for the first time in
my 53 years of life on this planet. It's an awe-inspiring new way of living, and
I'm grateful for your course."
-T.G. from San Jose,
CA
“You've started a whole new kind of
self-help...SELF-HELP which actually
works! After having finished your 21 day Program, I can assure anyone
who starts it...You will think, feel and even feel your body
differently...you'll even dream differently. Do the Course. Do the steps. The
rewards are HUGE."
Hartley from Reno, NV
“...This book should be required reading for everyone who
gets into a relationship. What no one ever tells us is that we will be
disappointed and have disillusionment. Mine wasn't that huge compared to many
other people's lives, but it felt very big to me and controlled my life and my
thinking about my wife. I have always been jealous and accusatory. After doing
the course, and taking it very seriously, I totally understand what that was all
about, and am a completely different person with my wife than I ever was before
(she agrees!). I'm far less controlling and far less afraid...I'm not driven by
fear. I truly understand what I was doing and why, and now I really feel and
think differently. It might sound strange, but I just feel like a truly different, calmer,
more confident, happy, joyous person is inside of me now."
-Leroy from Klamath Falls, OR
“...Let me just say that
I went from a person prostrate on my bed totally done in by life to a person
totally alive, creative and ready to face all life can give me. To put it one
way, I thought I would 'never dance again.' No amount of therapy, religious
training or spirituality...medicine...or anything else helped until I found your
course. But thanks to you and your course (actually thanks to ME for actually
doing it!) I'm dancing to the music now, and actually feel better and stronger
than I ever have in my life before now. I'm 37 years old and thought for a
while my life was over. Now I'm 37 and feel like I'm at the very beginning of
my life. The old cliche 'New
Beginning' isn't just an idea...it's a reality!"
-Ramona from Boston
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